What is the My Kids Community?

My Name is Steve Luther and I get it... you want to be able to take your kids with you and leave the anxiety at home. I understand because my wife and I have thirteen kids, nine of whom came through the foster care system. I’ve developed this program based on my twenty years of personal and professional experience with foster and adopted children and the families who are called to love them. 

We Are Different

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Because all the well meaning advice you have gotten just doesn’t work. ?  

Biblically Based

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God offers real change and calls us to thrive. We take that literally!


Because “the system” doesn’t have the answer and neither do cookie cutter Christian parenting methods.  

Heal Past

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Our brain based approaches help you get into where your child is hurting and invite them to come out.

Take these four steps to create real change in your family

Sign up

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Click the "Join The Community" button and take the first step to restoring peace in your home.

Watch Videos

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Watch the 10 module foundational course to empower you and free you from the chaos. Then stay active and watch the additional training materials which are added regularly for ongoing growth.

Get Involved

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Join our members only Facebook group, attend regular live webinars and connect with others on a similar journey.


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Don’t stay stuck! I’ve done this in my family and I can guide you step by step through the process of thriving as a family. No child and no family is too far gone. There is always hope in God. Let me show you!

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“This really WORKS."

"I recently began seeing a young man for issues with behavioral concerns, anger, and identity issues. After our first session I suggested that the parents attend Steve's My Kids parenting class. Within the first two weeks I noticed a dramatic change in the son’s attitude and demeanor. The parents were overwhelmed with excitement over the knowledge they received, the practical tools they were able to apply, and most importantly the changes they were seeing in their son! By the end of the session, both the parents and their son were reporting that home had become a much healthier, safer, and more pleasant atmosphere for all of them. There is still some work to do on both ends. However, there was a dramatic, significant, and noticeable change with both the child and the parents, and progress is definitely evident!"

Counselor seeing a child whose parents are in the My Kids Community

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“Relief After 7 Years!"

"For seven years , we have seen traumatic stress counselors , psychiatrists, family therapists and group therapists, without success. In the beginning of April 2014 , I sought parenting strategies at Grace Wellness Center for my adoptive teenage daughter who has RAD. The strategies and encouragement have been exactly what my husband and I needed . The coaching and time spent learning how to deal with ongoing situations has yielded great benefits for our family . I would encourage any parent especially parents of children with RAD to give this avenue a serious try. "

Dana C. - My Kids Member

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“My Entire Family Dynamic Changed.

Thank you for facilitating the My Kids boot camp. It was pivotal for us in learning how to effectively parent our RAD daughter. What a difference it has made for our whole family . Frankly , it has helped us across the board in our marriage, friendships, family relationships, and professional relationships. We would highly recommend this "boot camp" for parents who are challenged in raising attachment disorder children . Honestly , we are filled with hope and promise now more than ever!

JD & SD- My Kids Member